"The only darkness is Ignorance." - William Shakespeare

Fire Your Desire!
by Aine Belton

“Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.”
- Napoleon Hill

Desire breathes life into your dreams and fuels your imagination and expectation, enhancing your manifesting potential.
When you get in touch with your desire, your imagination, along with all the positive thoughts and feelings about your goal, are ignited.

To get in touch with the desire you have for a goal or dream, ask yourself:
“Why do I want this?”

As you answer the ‘Whys’, your passions and emotions stir, and your imagination flows.
Asking “Why?” also assists you in getting clear on the intent behind your goal and how true your goal is for you. It can also help to reveal hidden intentions and what’s really important to you. Perhaps you want a certain financial goal or a new career, because you are really looking for greater freedom, joy, interaction or social connection, for example, and you can then set additional or alternate goals to manifest those deeper wishes.
It can help you discern more of your true desires and what you are hoping a goal or dream will give you on other levels.
This exercise alone might shift and change your goals and dreams or generate new ones aligned to more of your heart’s deepest desires.
Sometimes what we think we want can be a product of the consensus, of what others want for us, of what we think we ‘should’ have, of what our ego thinks will gratify us, or of rationalizations rather than our heart’s desires. Asking “Why?” can be very revealing in this sense.

If you are out of touch with your desires and what you want to any degree, or have shut down your passion, get reacquainted with yourself and what juices you! Start by asking yourself the question, "What do I love?" Or "What would I love to be, do and have?"
Let your thoughts and feelings spill onto a page. Write passionately, freely, without analyzing anything you're writing, and let your heart express all that you love and that brings you joy. You might be surprised. Just be open and allow this deeper connection with yourself and your desires.
You can also ask yourself, “Where are my gifts, strengths and talents?”, for here you will also discover clues to your passions and desires. The gifts we have brought into this lifetime are things that when expressed and offered, when engaged and accessed, bring joy, fulfillment and satisfaction. They are things we desire to implement and share.

Sometimes people shut down their desire and passion, due to pain around not currently having what they want, or fear around never getting it and the disappointment that might ensue, so they keep a lid on feeling the extent and depth of this wonderful energy.

There is a difference between desire, and need, which it is often confused with, which I explore below.

Desire versus Need

There is a difference between desire, and need or desperation. Need and desperation are synonymous with feelings of lack and the absence of what you want, hence will repel your desired goal and perpetuate you not having it.
Desire, however, is a positive generating emotion. It fuels your imagination and positive feelings associated with your goal so integral to successfully attracting it.
Be passionate about your outcome yet remain light-hearted and unattached to ensure you don’t become needy or dependent on it.
One way to dissipate and release feelings of neediness, urgency or desperation, is to TRUST.
Trust in the positive outcome in your goal. Trust in the love and grace of the universe and the power of your heart and mind. Trust that you are on a co-creative journey, that there is a bigger picture, and that there is love, help and guidance available to you in every moment. Trust that the universe wants you to have what you desire as much as you do. Trust that you are loved more than you know and that the universe loves you more than you love yourself. Trust that what is in your highest interest will transpire, and let go of a need for one specific outcome.
Life doesn’t need to be a struggle, and you can have what you desire with belief, positive expectation and a willingness to receive.
Trust that if you let go of something, be that a person, thing or outcome, if it is for your best it will come back to you is for your highest good. If you truly desire it and are in energetic alignment with it (i.e. have congruent beliefs and take relevant action, etc.), you will manifest it if it.
It is holding on, neediness and attachment that ironically push away the very things you want.
You may notice this dynamic in relationships. It’s the same with all things. If you let go of something and it is for your best, it will be there. Relax, trust, loosen your grip, relinquish control and release your dreams and visions into the world. Trust, believe, open to receive and expect their materialization in your world.
If you are trying to hard to ‘make’ things happen or controlling, it means that a part of you doesn’t fully expect, believe or trust things will go your way, and this conflicting stance and energetic signal can interfere with your manifesting success.
If you are feeling a need to control or you are trying and struggling for success, it can be worthwhile to dig a little deeper to see if there are any faulty or limiting beliefs standing between you and your desires.
Instead of pushing or controlling to succeed, stop and breathe, and allow, attract and receive!

Split-Mind?

You might also have a split-mind or incongruent desires, where a part of you, perhaps consciously, wants one thing, yet another part of you – a hidden aspect of self that is not so conscious – wants something else.
As an example, perhaps you say you desire a loving committed relationship, yet keep attracting non-committal or unavailable types, distant relationships or ones that can’t go anywhere.

To see your drama clearly is to be liberated from it.”

- Ken Keyes

Becoming conscious is the first step on the road to freedom. By being conscious of what stands in the way of your dreams you can do something about it. Perhaps greater commitment, self-value, clarity, self-forgiveness or new beliefs are required.