Relationship Blues...

 I want to talk about something that, as women,
we don't often admit to ourselves that we feel.

  Of course, we know DEEP DOWN INSIDE that we're
feeling this way ... but to admit it 'out loud' to
ourselves is SCARY.

  I'm talking about that feeling that pops up out
of nowhere and says, 'You're not where you want to
be. You're a FAILURE.'

  This feeling could be aimed at ANY area of your
life. It could be your relationship (or the fact
that you don't have one.) It could be your
appearance, or your health. It could be your
career.

  Generally speaking though, I'm specifically
referring to those 'you're a FAILURE' thoughts
that come up about your RELATIONSHIP.

  The way I see it, there are several stages that
a relationship can be at.

  There's the 'we've got it ALL' stage, where
you've got a strong, COMMITTED bond, and things
just keep getting better and better ... and you're
both eager to keep improving and keep
strengthening that bond. (BTW ... VERY few women
rate themselves as being at this stage in their
relationship.)

  There's the 'we're doing pretty good' stage,
which is where things are GOOD, but not GREAT:
perhaps you really love each other, but there's
not a lot of passion and sex in your relationship.
Or perhaps you've got a lot of passion, but not
much love. Either way, things are PRETTY good ...
but there's still something missing.

  And there's the 'we're in trouble' stage, which
is where you KNOW that things just aren't
fulfilling you or satisfying you ... you're not
happy with where the relationship is going ... but
you're grimly hanging in there.

  This last stage is the one that I want to talk
about today.

  NOTE: Most women stay in relationships that are
not working for them because of FEAR ... they're
afraid of being alone. They're afraid of making a
mistake. They're afraid that life will be WORSE
without him than it is WITH him.

  Living in a relationship that isn't working for
you doesn't necessarily have to be some big,
dramatic thing. It doesn't necessarily mean that
you're crying all the time, or that you're mean to
each other, or that you're fighting day-in,
day-out (although those are DEFINITELY some pretty
serious warning signs.)

  The realization that 'this isn't working for
me' can also show up in your life as a vague sense
of dissatisfaction ... a feeling that you could do
BETTER, be HAPPIER, get MORE out of your life.

  It could manifest itself as a complete lack of
passion: you are in a relationship of convenience
rather than love, which is very HANDY when it
comes time to pay the bills and put children
through college ... but you can't get away from that
DEAD, empty feeling inside.

  It can even just feel like total boredom with
your relationship. You no longer feel any desire
for your partner, emotional, psychological, OR
physical. You are merely co-existing in the same
house, living parallel lives that never
intertwine. You're like ROOMMATES, not LOVERS ...
and in the back of your head is that little
question, 'Could I be doing better than this?'

  All of these situations cause that feeling deep
inside you that WHERE YOU ARE AT IS NOT GOOD
ENOUGH.

  You feel like a FAILURE - as though you're
missing out on something.

  But often, the fear of change is just so
paralyzing that it seems easier to simply stay
put, and do nothing.

  Here's a shot of good news for you: 'STAYING
PUT' DOESN'T HAVE TO MEAN 'DOING NOTHING.'

  Just because your life and/or your relationship
isn't where you expected it to be right now
doesn't mean that you have to break up.

  It doesn't mean you're not good enough, or that
your RELATIONSHIP is 'not good enough.'

   It doesn't even necessarily have to be a huge
PROBLEM.

  It could just be the MOTIVATION you need to
actually DO SOMETHING about your situation - the
stimulus you need to evaluate where you're AT, and
contrast that with where you want to BE.

  If you're in a relationship right now that is
'less than' ... if there's a gap between where you
ARE and where you want to BE ... that's not
necessarily a sign that you have to 'give up the
ghost' on that relationship.

  If you're not sure that you want to end it,
remember that YOU'RE FEELING THAT WAY FOR A
REASON.

  It's because not all of you wants to let go. At
least part of you wants to WORK THINGS OUT ... and
hopes that this is possible.

  Well, guess what?

  It IS possible.

  Even a relationship that seems to be in truly
dire straits can be salvageable ...

  ... and not just SALVAGEABLE, but capable of a
complete TRANSFORMATION.

  Even if you're facing some of the 'big issues'
like:

  - Addiction

  - Infidelity

  - Serious financial problems

  ... it is still possible to heal your
relationship - and even to use these crises as a
means of actually GROWING and STRENGTHENING your
bond.

  We've developed a unique course that will take
you through the problem areas in your relationship
...

  ... including that feeling of 'falling out of
love', how to keep couple time EXCITING, and what
SPECIFIC actions to take next when you feel that
your relationship is in trouble ...

  ... and you'll be walked through EVERY step of
the way by a team of relationship EXPERTS,
including clinical psychologists, professional
relationship coaches, and marriage counselors.

  Don't settle for less. Don't let your fears
convince you that your life and relationship
'isn't good enough'. Make the decision NOT to
settle for mediocrity, to take CONTROL of your
love life, and to make your relationship as
FULFILLING and HAPPY and LOVING as you ever
dreamed it would be.

  ... and I know, it says 'save my MARRIAGE', but
that's simply a nifty title trick that's designed
to 'keep it simple'. The truth is that the
principles, techniques, information, and PROVEN
strategies contained within are applicable to ALL
relationships - de facto, engaged, married,
same-sex, WHATEVER.

  The principles of creating and sustaining a
good relationship remain the same, whether there's
a legal contract involved or not.