Are You Rich… Emotionally

Our emotions are ultimately the juice that fills our needs, gives our lives meaning, and 

makes us feel so, so alive!

On the other hand, an emotionally barren life is a barren life. It’s a powerful warning signal 

that we need to make some changes in regard to how we’re living life, fast...so that we

rekiy?ndle the true joys of life.
There are a myriad of wonderful feelings that we’re capable of feeling; feelings that come
from inside us, available at any moment if we know how to access them.
To spark your imagination, here’s a short list:
Elation, curiosity, passion, desire, tenacity, cheerfulness,
tenderness, love, excitement, exhilaration, patience, courage,
calm, peace of mind, exuberance, happiness, self-belief, sense of
humor, bliss, euphoria, joy, optimism, gracefulness, security,
faith, rapture, fascination, feeling cherished, energetic, being
bubbly, satisfaction, ecstasy, hopeful, full of glee, feeling
blessed, outgoing, feeling grateful, feeling compassionate,
humility, persistence, peacefulness, feeling loved, freedom,
harmony, gregarious, excitable, in awe, cherished, vibrant, in the
zone, feeling special, playfulness, intrigue, confident,
energized, captivated, enthralled, compelled, driven, ecstatic.
So, my question to you is simple…
Many people strive to become financially rich. That’s fine and good, and financial freedom
is important.
But, is your life also emotionally rich?
How many different kinds of pleasant emotions do you experience on a regular basis
throughout your life? And, correspondingly, since emotions are the basis of all
meaning…is your life full of joy and meaning?

Now even  though this was just the first few minutes of working with her, and far, far from being
everything that was needed, I’m sharing it with you to mak e one important point. Namely, that
anyone (even someone who’s depressed enough  that they have to be restrained on 24-hour suicide
watch) c an gain access to the resourceful feelings they need, if they’re taught how. Her neurology
had everything it needed to feel good, on demand; she just hadn’t been taught how to turn o n the
pathways of happiness inside her.

In  many  years of working with people, I’ve never come across anyone who was unable to feel the
positive emotions they were after.
If someone has  ever felt a certain emotion at any time in  his or her life, then it means that  he or she
possesses all the right  “chemicals” and neurological pathways inside them to have that emotion again.
What’s more, that person can learn to automatically have those feelings in almost any context desired.
For example:
 If you’ve felt passionate at a baseball game, you can feel the same passion when working.
 If you’ve felt disgusted by a particular food you absolutely hate, your brain is more than
capable  of helping you  automatically  feel that same way about chocolate (if you wanted to
stop eating it, as did a previous diabetic client I had).
 If you’re confident talking to y our family, but you’re petrified  of giving a speech to an audienc e
at work, you can change the emotional pathway that has been automatically triggered by
being in front of that audience in the past―and  automatically feel confident from now on
standing  at the podium at work too.
And, again, all you’ve got to learn is how.
I’ll give you one “how-to” lesson in just a minute.
For now, there is one more piece I want to cover.
This is  really important because there is a lot of  rubbish and a lack of accurate thinking  these days in
the  self-help market, and  this  leads  people  to  setting impossible goals for themselves and feeling
hopeless, and very let down when they don’t reach them. That’s not useful to anyone.
Instead, by having an understanding of this one critical distinction I’m about to share with you, you will
have a much more accurate—and powerful—mind-set for creating the life of your dreams, and being
the kind of  person you truly yearn to be…

’ve built my career out of helping people change quickly and making a point that:
1) People helpers such as doctors, psychologists, and therapists (or anyone else for that fact)
shouldn’t charge if they don’t get results.
2) Professionals in the helping industry shouldn’t charge per hour as it rewards them for
incompetence. Ever consider that the longer they take to get results, the more they get paid?
I’ve stood on stage at medical conferences,  universities, and medical  schools and passionately
argued that anyone can change their lives and their situations, fast.
Most of all, I went out of my way to demonstrate  it.
My goal has always been to prove to people that fast changes  are not only possible, but are actually
easier than trying to change slowly.
I think I’ve been pretty successful at that over the years, but it’s also important to know that…
There Are Some Changes That Can’t Be Made Quickly.
In my opinion, this is something that really needs to be talked about  because in our “quick-fix” society,
far too many people set their sights on  certain goals in impossibly short time frames. Then they get
down on themselves if they don’t make it.
So which things can you change quickly in your life, and which things can you not?
Well, American philosopher Ken Wilber has done a very good job at pointing out the differences
between  what he calls “states” and  “stages.”
States, as referred to by Wilber, are emotions and are fairly  simple (yet can be extremely important)
thinking and behavioral  patterns.
Stages, on the other hand, refer to changes in much more  complex thinking and behavioral  skills.