When we’re in the presence of someone we really like, we tend to act like a completely different person in comparison to when they’re not around.
When we’re with friends (or with guys we’re not attracted to) we’re fun, exciting, spontaneous and we’re free to be our best selves. However, as soon as we’re talking to a guy we’re actually attracted to, something crazy happens and all of these great things we have to offer completely go out of the window!
We immediately shut off our ability to be playful; all of our charm, wit and confidence seems to fade into oblivion, and we’re left in this incredibly awkward situation trying to make an impression with this person we’re attracted to, with absolutely no idea of what to say!
And it doesn’t matter whether we make the decision that we like someone in a heartbeat or over a period of years, as soon as the decision has been made, we’re no longer able to be our best selves around that person.
So, the big question we have to ask ourselves is how do we maintain our usual level of confidence when we’re talking to someone we’re attracted to.
Here’s the solution…
Remove the intention.
Remove the intention. It’s simple really; intent creates pressure, and pressure creates nerves.
In other words, if you have a specific agenda with a situation, such as trying to gain attraction from someone you like, you are inevitably going to find it harder to be your best self.
However if you were to remove your intentions, your best self would flourish. This is often the case with the guys you’re not interested in, and the exact reason why you can’t get rid of them. You don’t have an agenda, you don’t have any nerves, and so you’re always able to be your best self around them.
In theory that seems pretty straight forward, but how do you go about removing your intentions?

 want you to remind yourself of just how fussy you really are.
I want you to remind yourself of just how fussy you are. I know you’re probably thinking that this sounds ridiculous, but there is a very practical way of applying this.
I want you to take out a pen and paper, and write all of the things that you absolutely need in a guy in order to even consider being in a relationship with him. If you want to take things up a notch, ask yourself, if I were going to be spending the rest of my life with this guy, what characteristics would I need him to have?
Hopefully your list is going to be long; at the very least it should be demanding!
And that’s because we’re all incredibly fussy in this area. That said, the moment we want something to happen with a guy, we immediately forget all of these things we need someone to have and delude ourselves into thinking they are perfect.
You can probably think back to a time where you were talking to a guy who was your type, and based solely on the fact he was your type, all of your fussiness suddenly disappeared.
So from now on, what you need to do in order to be your best self around guys you are attracted to, is keep reminding yourself of just how many things you need in order for a guy to be right for you.
Until you’ve really talked to a guy and spend a decent amount of time getting to know him, there is just no way of telling if he is going to be right for you.
Based on his physical appearance alone, he might tick one out of ten boxes, but you might need at least eight of those things before he becomes potential relationship material. Keep this in mind when you’re talking to a guy and trust me, you will no longer feel nervous.
So, remove your intentions, feel more relaxed, and let your best self come out to attract the guy you’re speaking to.