1. Not everyone in life will like you – no matter
what you do or what you look like. And the reverse side of this is, you won’t
always like everyone (and sometimes you can’t even pinpoint why). All you can do
is treat everyone with kindness and be yourself. If this isn’t enough, they’re
not worth your time. This equally applies to friendships and dating!
2. Be your own best friend – this follows on from my
above point, looking for other people’s continuous approval will lead you down a
lonely path (particularly if you’re looking for it from the wrong kind of
people). Be kind to yourself and focus on what your greatest strengths are.
Noone is perfect, so don’t waste time wishing you were. Where there is room for
improvement, do what you can and listen to your inner voice.
3. Don’t beat yourself up – things will go wrong
from time-to-time, it’s what makes us human. The best thing to do is dust
yourself off and try again. Of course if you keep making the same mistakes, it
might be time to change tactics, although sometimes our mistakes turn out to be
the biggest blessings
in disguise and take us down a greater path.
4. Set goals and write them down. When your head is
swarming with a list of everyday tasks, the bigger picture and less urgent goals
can get pushed until tomorrow. And then the week after, and then maybe the year
after that. Writing them down not only gives you a sense of purpose, it helps
you realize what’s a priority in your life. Stick your goals up somewhere you
can see them, so when you feel yourself going off track, they’ll act as gentle
reminder.
5. You can be whatever you want…within reason. The
statement “you can be whatever you want” is one I’ve always been a little
skeptical about. Can I really be the next Beyonce when I really can’t sing? The
truth is, not matter how hard I try, probably not (my school principal will even
vouch for this). But I can find what I am really good at, or something that I am
incredibly passionate about, then shoot for the stars and make it happen.
6. You’re the only thing standing between a good and a bad
day. It’s raining and grey outside and you’re running late for what’s
set to be a tough day, however you have a choice at this moment to stay calm and
make the most out of the day, or let any obstacle control your mood. Sure,
things will sometimes come up that will lead you wishing you never got out of
bed, however most of the time, we really can shape our reality.
7. Don’t compare yourself to others. There will
always be people who are better at something or have more than you do. Whether
they’re more attractive or smarter than you, or have the financial freedom to
live a more luxurious life. Yes, it would be amazing if we could live the “dream
life” we have conjured up in our heads, however the life you’re living is the
one that you have. So make the most of it and follow the kind of dreams that
will bring you happiness.
8. 80% of what you fear will never happen. I’ve
heard this statistic a lot over the years, and now that I’m 31 (gulp), it
certainly feels this way (now why didn’t they teach us this in math class?).
Knowing it doesn’t always take the worry away, but it can put things into
perspective when your mind is going into overdrive with fears of “what if.” Most
of the time the worst case scenario doesn’t eventuate, so rather than preparing
yourself for that, plan for the best outcome. Seeing a situation in a risky
state gives you the chance to see what you really want and what your next course
of action should be
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