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Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Feedback (in all fields is important except relationship? STRANGE...Read ahead

Hollywood spends millions of dollars to make their films but it
also costs them millions more to place the movie in theaters across
the country.  If they know a film is going to bomb they won't
bother spending millions to market it and release it.  How do they
know it is going to bomb?  Feedback.

Athena and I regularly accepted passes to go to movie test
screenings on Tuesday nights.  We had to show up about an hour
ahead of time but it was worth the wait.  Employees from the studio
collected our passes and swapped them out for tickets.  They would
talk to us about our jobs, ages, and our movie viewing habits.  If
we matched the profile they were seeking, they would ask us if we
would be able to stay after the screening was over to talk to the
producers about the film.  We always accepted.

A couple hundred of us marched into the theater and we watched the
screening of a movie that was scheduled for release within the
next six months.  Afterwards, the film studio passed out feedback
forms while we were still in our seats.  For ten minutes or so the
audience rated the film based on various criteria including
characters, plot and storytelling.  We wrote down our favorite
scenes and the ones that annoyed us.  After most of the people
left, Athena and I and about 10 others sat in front of the theater
and discussed the film even further in front of important studio
executives.  When we were done, we were each given $20 for our
input.

Depending on the sort of audience feedback the screening received,
the film could be seriously altered or sent straight to the video
stores. On several occasions, endings have been completely changed
based on audience feedback.

No movie studio wants to see its film bomb at the box office.  They
spend a lot of time and effort to keep that from happening.  Not
only does audience feedback help them from releasing lemons,
critical input can turn a good film into a great film.

How much do you value feedback in your relationship?

At one time Athena and I had an unwed pregnant lady living with us.
While we don't expect things to be blissful, we believe that an
open dialog and honest feedback will help all of our relationships
with each other.

We instituted a weekly family forum where we ask questions to
determine how our family is doing.  It is a time for us to
determine what is working and what needs altering.  The sooner we
get feedback on something that is broken, the less damage will
occur in our family.

I believe that couples should have feedback nights too if they
aren't giving feedback on a regular basis.  Too often input isn't
given because it isn't requested.

So, go ahead and make a list and ask your mate how you are doing.
Here are just a few questions to get you started.

-       How do you feel about the cleanliness of the house?

-       Do you think we spend enough time together?

-       Are you satisfied with how often we make love?

-       Do you think I do enough of the housework?

-       Do you like my hair shorter or longer?/ Do you prefer me with or
without a beard/mustache?

-       Do you think we should try to improve our spiritual life?

-       Do you feel like I listen to you when you talk to me?

If you don't seek feedback in your relationship, it is very likely
to bomb in the future.  But remember that good feedback can make a
good relationship great

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