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Monday, January 17, 2011

Attraction...

Attraction isn't about how you look, the best way to flirt, dress or physically connect with a man. To truly connect with a man so he knows that you’re “the one,” you need to create a spiritual attraction. I'll teach you the astrological and real-world secrets to creating that spiritual attraction so you never have to feel uncertain, disconnected, or lonely ever again.
Attraction is a mysterious thing... I'm sure you don't need me to tell you.
Sometimes you'll THINK a man is really attracted to you because you have great chemistry, or you can talk and talk and talk, or you have everything in common - but the relationship goes nowhere...
Or you'll think a man SEEMS perfect for you because he's just your type, or he's all the things you “think” you want “on paper” - and yet, you feel nothing for him...
Or you think you WON'T be attracted to a man, or that he WON'T be attracted to you because you don't “fit” each other's picture of who you're “supposed” to be with... and yet you'll be inextricably drawn to each other, and unable to stay away (this was me and my hubby - and still is!).
It's a “knowing” you and a man have about each other, a feeling that it's just “right” and it's more important than anything else... Because it comes from deep inside of your very being, telling you “he's THE ONE.”
Now imagine what it would be like if a man felt that way about YOU.
Forget Your Doubts And Worries.
Feel What It's Like To KNOW
You're Meant For Each Other
Imagine that you and a man KNOW you're meant for one another, and that your relationship is RIGHT...
What would that be like?
o    You'd be able to relax because he'd love you for no "logical" reason but instead for something deeper that isn't dependent on you "doing" anything, or "being" something you're not...
o    You wouldn't feel anxious or worried that he'd suddenly "disappear" because the connection between you makes you confident of his feelings...
o    You'd feel safe to be vulnerable and open with him, because you know this is YOUR RIGHT person, and someone who truly loves and adores the real you, "warts and all"...
o    He'd want you in his life, now and in the future, and you could trust that he means it and that you can believe it's real - BECAUSE IT IS...
o    He'd always have that tone in his voice and that look in his eyes that would tell you without a doubt that he's truly in love and devoted to you, so you wouldn't have to analyze his every word and action, or constantly need his reassurance...
Ahhh...
What's the secret to making a man feel such things?
Many women think the most important thing is what they look like, and assume they have to be the best looking, most fit, or best dressed they can be. Though this can help you get a man's INITIAL attention, and make him want to sleep with you - that may be all it does...
Other women believe what matters is their personality - that they have to be really funny and smart, or really nice and supportive. And while it's great to be able to connect with a man through snappy conversation or pleasing behavior - it may only make him want you for a friend or love you like a sister...
Some women assume they have to impress a man with their achievements, education, or successes. While such things may make him want to hire you or have you for a business partner - they won't make him see "forever" in your eyes...
Here's the thing: You can blow a man's mind with your body... You can stimulate his intellect with your brain... You can inspire his respect with your resume... But NONE of that will connect you to his SOUL.
And I've talked to MANY men who've told me about the women in their lives, and have said things to me like:
"I have the best sex of my life with her... I just know she's not 'the one.'"
"I have such a great time talking to her... I just know she's not my wife."
"I'm so impressed with everything about her... I just know I'm not 'supposed' to be with her for the long term."
(But the poor women they're talking about think those things mean he loves her and they're headed somewhere... like happily ever after... sigh.)
When I was single, men said things like that to me about me... a lot.
My Story - The Good, The Bad,
And The Husband...
When I was single I dated like crazy. I made a big effort to find love, often going on two or three dates and set-ups in the same day!
And I was blessed to meet many good men and to get some nice attention.
But because I met tons of men and made a big effort, I inevitably suffered my fair share of rejection. But often only after men SEEMED like they really liked me. (Know the feeling?)
They'd call, they'd flirt, they'd check in... but they'd give me mixed messages. Like they wouldn't make plans with me until the last minute. Or they'd say they wanted to get together soon but wouldn't make plans at all. Or they'd make plans only to break them...
I felt so confused.
When I'd ask them what was up, they always replied with some variation of, "Nothing's wrong with you - I just know you're not THE ONE."
One guy who'd come on really strong at first but was soon "too busy" to see me said, "You're my dream girl and I wish I felt differently - something just doesn't feel right."
Another guy who I dated for over a year would be super affectionate one day and withdrawn and grumpy the next. He blew his rent money to get me an amazing custom made necklace for my birthday, only to get me nothing three weeks later for Valentine's Day. (Not even a card! Can you say CRAZY MAKER?)
When I pressed him about it, he said, "You're exactly my type. You're my physical ideal and I've never had a woman treat me so well before. I don't know why, I just know we're not supposed to spend the rest of our lives together so I don't want to get too close..."
(By the way - when he met his wife he proposed to her within six weeks...)
Talk about feeling devastated... and utterly helpless! If I was so great, why couldn't a man really and truly fall in love with me?
I don't mean to brag when I share the compliments these men gave me - that I was their "dream girl" or "their physical ideal" ('cause trust me - not all men thought such things!). I'm just trying to illustrate that EVEN when a man thinks those things he WON'T WANT YOU if he doesn't ALSO feel that he's SUPPOSED to be with you.
Then I met my husband. And we did that "across a crowded room" thing, and I knew in just one look that he was going to be VERY important.
I was NOT his dream girl or his physical ideal - by a mile. (He'd dated women MUCH hotter...)
We did NOT have much in common.
I was NOT what he usually went for at all...
And gee, I should probably mention that he was sure he was NEVER going to get married. To anyone.
He was a hardened bachelor and planned to stay happily that way forever.
There was just one little problem... He says that from the minute we met, I felt like his wife.
And despite giving me the "I'm never going to get married speech" many times in the three years we dated, he later admitted that DESPITE what he'd always planned, he KNEW he was going to marry me.
And then he PROPOSED and told me all he wanted was to get married - that he wasn't okay anymore with living together (as we'd been happily doing). He KNEW I was his wife, and he HAD to marry me and let the world know as well.
I felt shocked and giddy as he gave me an ultimatum straight out of a romantic comedy-
The confirmed bachelor demanded, "Marry me or let me go"!
How Any Woman Can Make A Man
INSIST On Committing His Life To Her
I'm not going to lie to you...
You can't MAKE a man have that "you're the only woman in all the world for me" feeling.
It's an elusive, indefinable, "can't be bottled or bought" kind of thing.
And yet, there are a few CRITICAL things you can do to DRASTICALLY improve your odds of having a man feel this way about you. (And sometimes he doesn't know right away - sometimes this feeling "sneaks up" on people.)
Four Things You Must Do
To Inspire His Spiritual Attraction
There are many ways you may be virtually guaranteeing that EVEN if a man has an initial WOW reaction to you, he'll STILL quickly head for the nearest exit... (you can definitely put a stop to that if you know why that happens in the first place...)
There are a few key traits that some women instinctively have about them that are so profound and significant, that they have a WOW affect on LOTS of people, and they can HOLD more than one man's heart forever. (I'm sure you know a few women like that. I do!)
And I want you to know what they know, and do what they do (without having to change your core, authentic self - in fact, just the opposite), so that you can go from having men go "hot and cold" to "hot and HOTTER" if you choose.
So let me share 4 critical aspects to this "Spiritual Attraction" business...
Secret #1: Access Your Heart Intelligence
Did you know that your heart has its own brain? Science has proven that you have emotional intelligence in your heart, and that the brain makes important emotional decisions only after getting input from the heart...
So the brain doesn't tell the heart what you think about a man - much of what you think about him is felt first in your heart!
That's right - the language of poets and spiritual scriptures throughout the ages are all describing something very real when they say, "As a man thinketh in his heart, so shall he be..."
Not only that, but how connected you are to your own heart's intelligence, and how aligned your choices are with what your heart truly wants has everything to do with how happy you are, and how peaceful you are within yourself.
And this can be felt by everyone around you, whether you intend them to know what you're feeling or not, and this determines how comfortable others are in your presence, and how attractive you are!
In my new "Astrological Attraction" program, I'll teach you easy exercises that, in two minutes or less, will allow you to access your own heart's intelligence and connect more fully with your heart, increasing your happiness, and strengthening your "head/heart" connection to enable you to make the best choices for yourself.
This will help you to more deeply connect with yourself, and feel great "in your own skin."
Your mood instantly improves. Your anxiety goes down. All that "mind chatter" and noise in your head quiets. Suddenly you know what to do in every area of your life.
Best of all, it's been proven that when you're able to access your heart in this way, it can be felt by everyone around you - and it's contagious. Your happy heart can make even someone standing next to you feel good. Just as your unhappy heart can make a total stranger standing beside you feel bad and not even know why. (I'm not making this up!)
When you don't know how to connect to your heart, you get bogged down in confusion. Your anxiety increases. Your confidence flounders. You can't make the best choices for yourself - about anything.
(And you were worried about your hair... )
Secret #2: Have A "Beginner's Mind"
One of the most attractive things you can do is to have a "Beginner's Mind."
This idea from Zen Buddhism recommends that no matter how old you become, how much you think you "know," or how much experience you have, you should approach life as though you have no past, no baggage, and no expectations...
You drop your pain from the past... any old wounds, disappointments, or hurts...
You interact with a man based on what he's doing and how he's being with you - and not because he's doing something that reminds you of some other man from before, or because you're afraid he could hurt you, or that he might do something to upset you...
It allows you to open your heart and be vulnerable.
You'll know the difference between when a man is unknowingly pushing your buttons because of a past fear or when he's truly behaving badly.
When you don't have a "Beginner's Mind" men will easily "step on" your past issues, bringing them up again.
So you'll confuse them. They'll be afraid of getting too close. They'll inexplicably disappear or withdraw.
In my program, I teach you how to adopt a "Beginner's Mind" whether you're meeting a man for the first time, or are in a long-term relationship. This will AMPLIFY a man's ability to relax around you, and therefore feel GOOD with you instantly! And make a man who already loves you, love your more than ever.
(And you were worried about your waistline...)
Secret #3: Activate Your Astrological Attraction Amplifiers
And now for the fun part...
Did you know you were born with INBORN strengths to your personality that make you effortlessly attractive (and ensure that those inner fabulous parts of you are out and about)?
Making you charming, sweet, generous, witty, warm, and more... ah...
But did you also know that you were born with INBORN weaknesses that, when you're stressed, have a tendency to eclipse your strengths and make you suddenly UNATTRACTIVE?
Making you paranoid, critical, grumpy, cold, depressed, and so much less... arg...
But did you know that you have so much choice about traits you decide to contain and which ones you amplify?
In "Astrological Attraction" I teach you how to read the key planetary "attraction amplifiers" that are the most yummy parts of your personality, that others LOVE about you, that you likely already love about yourself...
And, for the sake of awareness, I'll teach you how to easily diagnose your own planetary "attraction killers" that are the most yucky parts of your personality, that others DO NOT love about you, that you likely also wish were different.
Why would I want to torture you like that? For a very good reason - with awareness and understanding, you can strengthen the good parts of yourself, and stop being suddenly overtaken by the bad parts.
Seriously, this can all be seen in the stars - and NOT because of what zodiac sign you are, but because of more advanced, little-known combinations known in Vedic astrology as "chastity yogas" that have been looked to for thousands of years to help determine how "marriageable" a woman is.
(And you were worried about your shoes...)
Secret #4: Relate From Your Higher Self
One of the most attractive things you can do is to cultivate the ability to step outside of yourself and objectively observe your own behavior so that you can understand your impact on others - separate from your own needs and desires.
In many spiritual traditions, this is called accessing your "higher self" or your "witness."
And it's a wonderful skill to help you be as attractive as possible...
Why? Because over time you'll become more and more conscious, and you'll know what you're doing and why... You won't be blindly acting and reacting to life like a leaf floating on top of a rushing river.
This will enable you to make better and better choices, and to stop yourself before you do something you'll perhaps later regret.
Best of all, when a man tells you how you affect him, you'll understand what he means and you can make adjustments if necessary, and he'll feel closer to you as a result.
This program will teach you how to cultivate your own "witness" by walking you through a simple, fun exercise to help you rise above any situation and see it for what it is, allowing you to interact with everyone you know (or want to know) from this more aware, awake, wise part of yourself... and be above the drama of it all.
(And you were worried you had food in your teeth...)
Become Irresistibly Attractive To The Man You Want... For All The RIGHT Reasons
I've spent years talking to great women who don't have a clue about their own love lives...
Gorgeous women who are dressed "to the nines" with perfect hair and skin will tell me they get tons of first dates, but few second or third ones (let alone a boyfriend or husband...) and they're SO uncomfortable and anxious about it, that even I want to run away from their terrible "vibes!" But they have no idea how they affect others...
Nice, sweet women will tell me how confused they are by the "mixed messages" of the man in their life - but I'll quickly be able to tell that he's only attracted to PART of her - her sexuality, her conversation, her shared interests - but not ALL of her... so he'll never be her guy.
Women married or in long relationships will be telling me how great things USED to be with their guy but how blah they've become... and I'll instantly know what they can do to turn it all around and bring him close again... (while they have no idea what's happened).
Time and again, I've wanted to SAVE these women from themselves... and help them stop whatever was going on.
So I've decided to create a program about the TRUTH about attraction that can help any woman of any relationship status: What it is, how it works, the different kinds, and the best "real-world" ways to RAMP IT UP with anyone you meet or are already involved with, as well as how to tell if your attractions are good for you or not...
So I did just that. It's called "Astrological Attraction - Celestial and Real-World Ways to Attract, Select, and Keep The Right Man For You."
In this program, I cover TONS of juicy stuff to help you go from feeling like you have no control over your romantic relationships - or that the men in your life have all the power, or the Universe does - to YOU being in control of attracting and connecting with who you want...
The 4 ETERNAL TRUTHS about attracting your soulmate 
you'll discover in my program include:
  1. Ramping Up Attraction Requires Real-World Insight
·         How men and women are different (from brain studies!) when it comes to attraction, so you can stop taking them so personally, and so you can know how to do/be what they like!
·         The role our different physical senses play in attraction and which sense is actually most important.
·         How to understand why a man can SEEM like he wants you, but can act as confused as you feel. The answer is in his brain... Learn why only one part of his brain is attracted to you, and why the other parts of his brain don't get stimulated.
·         And more...
  1. Increasing His Sense Of "RIGHTNESS" Requires The Seeking Of Spiritual Truths
·         How getting into your heart will make you more attractive to him and everyone else you encounter, and how to get there and stay there.
·         How to connect to your "higher-self" and see the best, wisest way to respond to life.
·         How to access your intuition any time, any place so you know the right thing to do at all times, and live your highest truth.
·         How to "time travel" to your ideal future and then magically know the steps you must take in your present to get you there.
  1. My Astrological Tips Can Amplify Your Best Qualities And Tone Down Your More Negative Ones...
·         I pull back the curtain on what are called "Chastity Yogas" in Vedic astrology that reveal the inherent, natural, automatic essence of your softer, sweeter side as well as the inborn "cracks in your system" that are brought forward when you're under stress or not feeling loved and safe...
·         Even the "negative" combinations have good things about them, and understanding your own emotional strengths and weaknesses can allow you to be more integrated and at peace with yourself (which, again, only makes you more attractive to be around)...
·         Based on your actual astrology chart, I help you diagnose if you're emotionally more masculine or feminine, and how you're impacting men as a result (and how to shift from one to the other, or balance the two so that men stop being intimidated by you, or shut down their masculine power with you and become whiny wussies - I'll teach you how to inspire their inner "Superman" instead)...
  1. You Need The Right Keys Before You Can Unlock The Truth About Whether Or Not A Man Is Right For You...
·         I systematically break down how to recognize in your FEELINGS and your whole body intelligence if a man is right for you or if you know better deep down...
·         Because when you can't tell where the "chemistry" is coming from, you can get into SERIOUS trouble. This way, you don't waste possibly years of your time and tons of your heart (and sanity) on the wrong guy...
You'll also learn:
o    How to know right off the bat if the ATTRACTION you and a man share is adeeper and more lasting kind
o    The 8 Tell-Tale Signs that tell you if your attraction is just a Chemical Attraction or what I call Spiritual Attraction
o    The Science of the brain - MADE EASY. By knowing the 3 areas where attraction is created you'll have a "holistic" understanding of who a man is and what makes him tick (and why he's acting toward you as he is... especially why he may be doing that agonizing 'come here/go away' stuff...)
o    Why men like blondes so much, what it means they are thinking, and how to use this to your benefit when you're catching a man's interest (regardless of your hair color)
o    Studies show that 1-in-5 Marriages are SEXLESS: How to make sure that never happens to yours (and how to turn that "ticking time bomb" around if it already has...)
o    A powerful exercise that will call forward your own personal "Witness." Once you do this you'll receive complete CLARITY and TRUTH about your feelings and what's going on in your relationship
o    How to tap into your "heart energy" and use it to create attraction practically on-demand when you want a man to open up and get close to you
o    A little-known meditation that will show you how to get a man "out of his cave" without having to try and pry his heart and his mouth open just to get him to talk to you
o    How to "unhook" yourself from painful experiences from your past that are causing you to turn men off and disconnect from your heart in the moment and instead live in the present from a place of peace
o    7 ways to know if you're being truly PRESENT with men. This is critical because men are attracted to women who they feel are present with them and interested in them
o    The single most fundamental part of your attractions in astrology:Chastity Yogas. Find out whether you have a "chaste" or "unchaste" nature. When you have strong Chastity Yogas you'll finally be able to trust when a man loves you and will not be jealous of other women
o    11 Qualities of Good Chastity Yogas - use these to AMPLIFY attraction
o    The Chastity Yogas of famous women... find out the "attraction amplifiers" and "attraction killers" of Julia Roberts, Angelina Jolie, Marilyn Monroe, Princess Diana, Reese Witherspoon, Julia Child, Jennifer Aniston, and others...
o    What Men Really Want: The universal nickname men use when describing a woman they love being around to their friends - and a comprehensive list of these qualities men universally crave and seek out in women
o    Exactly what you need to know about how your own level of Happiness in your every day life will affect whether or not a man feels attraction for you. (And the amazing results of a study that proves that only 10% of personal happiness is due to your current circumstances. Find out what the other 90% is from and how to DRAMATICALLY increase yours)
o    The one hard-and-fast rule of what will make a man interested in you. Hint - men aren't always so complicated and they want from you what you want from them
o    The almost impossible to believe, and "too good to be true" truth about what over 2,000 men surveyed agreed were the 4 most important things a man wants in a woman when it comes to sex (this just might restore your faith in men forever...)
o    Learn from the author of "Choosing Me Before We" how she overcame being dumped on the way to her own engagement party and changed her life for the better forever (and is now married and happier than she would have ever been)
o    The 2 Feminine "Super-Powers" of Sovereignty and Vulnerability - why they're so powerful and how you can cultivate them to blow a man away and have an incredible relationship
o    Why a man can't "see you" until you see yourself, and how to go about knowing who you really are
o    The REAL Law of Attraction - that you always attract not what you believe but what you ARE
o    How to tell the difference between your "Inner Mean-Girl" voice inside your head and your Intuition... and how finally using your Intuition will get you authentically in touch with your true feelings and allow men to connect to you on a deeper level
o    The two qualities or essences of a woman that men agree are most important... and how you can ensure you have both
o    The definition of true freedom and how if you can live in that state - you'll be perfectly content whether you have a man in your life or not
o    A simple, fun way to instantly change your emotional state for the better - no matter what's going on around you
o    And so much more..

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