Meeting other entrepreneurs who had the guts to forge ahead when their friends told them they were crazy – when their families abandoned them, and when it seemed they might even failthemselves – is the most inspiring thing in the world. It reinforces that anything IS possible. When someone who hasn't committed to their dreams has a friend who doesn't support them, they will give up the dream. But when someone has committed to their dreams and has a friend who doesn't support them, they will realize it's time to get new friends.
The harsh reality is: not everyone will support your dreams, even when they say they do. Comments like, "I just don't want to see you get hurt," are really dream killers, because they come from people who genuinely care about you – but here's where subconscious psychology comes into play:
Where will THEY be if you're driving towards your goals? They will be without you around. They will be watching you venture after your passions and into the scary waters of the unknown, waters they themselves are scared of – waters you "should be scared of too."
One of the biggest obstacles I had to overcome in pursing my dreams was knowing WHEN and WHO to delete out of my life.
You might be thinking, "Huh? What'd he just say?" Yes, deleting. There's only so much capacity in one's life; only so much time in the day and space in the brain to hold thoughts and ideas. If you don't make a concerted effort to delete the stuff that isn't getting you towards your real goals (and keep it out!) – and let ONLY the stuff that is getting you closer to your goals into your life – you won't ever achieve your dreams. The place to start is by deleting negative, self-deprecating thoughts.
The action plan for YOU, is to count the number of times you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts tomorrow. Then look at them. Carefully. How can you delete them from your life? I challenge you to make a commitment to delete ALL of them in 2012. Look at them one at a time, and talk through them to identify your actual goal underlying the negative thought.
"I'm fat." (Negative.)
"I want to be fit" (Goal.)
Every time you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, stop and say aloud to yourself: "No, I'm not fat. My goal is to be fit by March, and to do that, I will workout three times a week." While this sounds completely trivial (and something your "friends" may call you crazy for if they catch you doing aloud), it's the starting point for changing negative patterns – and the starting point toward achieving your goals.
The harsh reality is: not everyone will support your dreams, even when they say they do. Comments like, "I just don't want to see you get hurt," are really dream killers, because they come from people who genuinely care about you – but here's where subconscious psychology comes into play:
Where will THEY be if you're driving towards your goals? They will be without you around. They will be watching you venture after your passions and into the scary waters of the unknown, waters they themselves are scared of – waters you "should be scared of too."
One of the biggest obstacles I had to overcome in pursing my dreams was knowing WHEN and WHO to delete out of my life.
You might be thinking, "Huh? What'd he just say?" Yes, deleting. There's only so much capacity in one's life; only so much time in the day and space in the brain to hold thoughts and ideas. If you don't make a concerted effort to delete the stuff that isn't getting you towards your real goals (and keep it out!) – and let ONLY the stuff that is getting you closer to your goals into your life – you won't ever achieve your dreams. The place to start is by deleting negative, self-deprecating thoughts.
The action plan for YOU, is to count the number of times you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts tomorrow. Then look at them. Carefully. How can you delete them from your life? I challenge you to make a commitment to delete ALL of them in 2012. Look at them one at a time, and talk through them to identify your actual goal underlying the negative thought.
"I'm fat." (Negative.)
"I want to be fit" (Goal.)
Every time you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, stop and say aloud to yourself: "No, I'm not fat. My goal is to be fit by March, and to do that, I will workout three times a week." While this sounds completely trivial (and something your "friends" may call you crazy for if they catch you doing aloud), it's the starting point for changing negative patterns – and the starting point toward achieving your goals.
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