7 Commandments for a strong Relationship

1. Develop Your Own Personality

Too often we get into a relationship and lose ourselves. We stop doing those things that made us happy when we were single (hanging out with friends, reading on our own or our favorite hobbies). Instead, we spend as much time as possible for the other person. Remind yourself of who you are. If you’ve forgotten, get to know 

Be Happy

Be happy yourself. If you need someone else to make you happy, you’ll be disappointed every time. They can’t read your mind and don’t know your every need. Instead of relying on them for all your happiness, rely on yourself. Do what makes you happy, then you’ll be happier in your relationship. Also, tell your partner about what makes you happy and ask them the same.

3. Work Together as a Team

I’ve always said if a couple can get along camping (in a tent, in the woods) for a weekend, then they have a strong relationship. They can cooperate to get tasks done and still find time to have fun. So split up the house chores or hire a cleaning service so you can stop arguing over who does the chores. Divide and conquer!

4. Talk About Problems

Have you ever not talked about a problem with your partner? Have you watched your fear and anxiety increase tremendously as the problem grew in your mind? When you finally talked about it with your partner or it finally exploded, was the reality as bad as you expected? I’ve said it before, you’ve read it before – so instead of holding it inside, talk about it with your partner. No gossiping. No talking behind each other’s back. And NO second-guessing.

5. Share Life Based on Reality

In Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice, Elizabeth’s younger sister married a military man. She thought the marriage was just dreamy. In reality, the couple was forced to marry, because she had runaway with the man and lived in sin. Check that you’re really seeing your relationship for what it is. If you have an assumption, talk about it with your partner to get a reality check.

6. No Finger Pointing

No matter what happens, do not point your finger at them. The old adage is that when you point one finger, three more are pointing back at you. You will have disagreements, you will not be pleased with some things your partner does and you will lose your temper occasionally. This is normal. Blaming each other is not.

7. Honor and Respect the Person You’re With

In her years as a psychic adviser, Amelia has found that many times we don’t honor and respect the person we’re with. Sometimes, all it takes is a moment to really look at your partner and all the things they do for you (or would do if you allowed them) and what they mean in your life. If you honored and respected your partner, you’d be amazed how differently your relationship can be. The trust that is created is amazing. As my soon-to-be-husband says, “Don’t take my word for it. Try it yourself.”

Be happy yourself. If you need someone else to make you happy, you’ll be disappointed every time. They can’t read your mind and don’t know your every need. Instead of relying on them for all your happiness, rely on yourself. Do what makes you happy, then you’ll be happier in your relationship. Also, tell your partner about what makes you happy and ask them the same.

3. Work Together as a Team

I’ve always said if a couple can get along camping (in a tent, in the woods) for a weekend, then they have a strong relationship. They can cooperate to get tasks done and still find time to have fun. So split up the house chores or hire a cleaning service so you can stop arguing over who does the chores. Divide and conquer!

4. Talk About Problems

Have you ever not talked about a problem with your partner? Have you watched your fear and anxiety increase tremendously as the problem grew in your mind? When you finally talked about it with your partner or it finally exploded, was the reality as bad as you expected? I’ve said it before, you’ve read it before – so instead of holding it inside, talk about it with your partner. No gossiping. No talking behind each other’s back. And NO second-guessing.

5. Share Life Based on Reality

In Jane Austen’s Pride and Prejudice, Elizabeth’s younger sister married a military man. She thought the marriage was just dreamy. In reality, the couple was forced to marry, because she had runaway with the man and lived in sin. Check that you’re really seeing your relationship for what it is. If you have an assumption, talk about it with your partner to get a reality check.

6. No Finger Pointing

No matter what happens, do not point your finger at them. The old adage is that when you point one finger, three more are pointing back at you. You will have disagreements, you will not be pleased with some things your partner does and you will lose your temper occasionally. This is normal. Blaming each other is not.

7. Honor and Respect the Person You’re With

In her years as a psychic adviser, Amelia has found that many times we don’t honor and respect the person we’re with. Sometimes, all it takes is a moment to really look at your partner and all the things they do for you (or would do if you allowed them) and what they mean in your life. If you honored and respected your partner, you’d be amazed how differently your relationship can be. The trust that is created is amazing. As my soon-to-be-husband says, “Don’t take my word for it. Try it yourself.”